Realistic Resolutions

MERRY CHRISTMAS, EVERYONE (to those who celebrate)!!!!!!! 🙂

Me and my friend Audra posing with Santa!! I just love Christmas! Photo Taken by Ralph Panelli.

Me and my friend Audra posing with Santa!! I just love Christmas!
Photo Taken by Ralph Panelli.

As the year 2013 comes to a close, it’s time to once again reflect on what we would like to change about ourselves and make a New Year’s Resolution. The Holiday Season will begin to come to an end, and the time of being thankful for families, friends, and the blessings we have will begin to fade away as we make our way back to our “normal” way of life. This isn’t a bad thing, necessarily; for the most part, we are continuously thankful for the lives we have and the people in our lives. However, in the modern age where technology reigns supreme and quality family time becomes more and more rare, it’s important to cherish the feeling that the Holiday Season brings. We should always remember to tell our loved ones how much we really do love and appreciate them. And, of course, this doesn’t have to be shown with flashy presents – a gift of some kind words will do just fine. It’s important to show our love for the people in our lives, mostly because that sign of affection might be what they need at that given moment.

I am so thankful for my family, and hope I can express that gratitude all year round! Pictured here is my Aunt Marjy, myself,  and my Darling Mother. Photo taken by Genevieve Diller.

I am so thankful for my family, and hope I can express that gratitude all year round! Pictured here is my Aunt Marjy, myself, and my Darling Mother.
Photo taken by Genevieve Diller.

Now, I’m not trying to be too preachy here. This is all stuff that I would like to see in my life and words that I would like to live by. I am guilty of becoming too self absorbed and looking out for number one. However, one of my realistic resolutions is to show kindness to those I love. The simple act of just spreading kindness can go a long way, and I know that if I begin to spread some kindness, maybe some kindness will be shown in return in my direction.

Another thing I see too often around this time of year is people being so hard on themselves. We always see negative thoughts of I need to lose weight, or I need to change my appearance, or even I’m not good enough. We often see people make New Year’s Resolutions that have to do with losing weight or changing something about their appearance. I am guilty of this myself; as I’ve gotten older, my appearance has changed, and I’ve been hard on myself because of it. However, I’ve tried to be nicer to myself and love myself for who I am. That’s why another one of my realistic resolutions is to be kind to myself. I am human and I do make mistakes. I do not look like a supermodel, and I probably never will. Does that make me a bad person? Not at all. I, Genevieve Diller, am beautiful in my own way. And that’s perfectly fine with me. I hope that other people – men and women alike – can come to this conclusion about themselves and, instead of being so hard on themselves, can begin to show kindness to themselves. If you ever have trouble doing this and feel like you need guidance, feel free to talk to someone – a friend, your RA, or someone from the amazingly wonderful Counseling Center! 

I am who I am, and that's fine with me!  Photo taken by Genevieve Diller.

I am who I am, and that’s fine with me!
Photo taken by Genevieve Diller.

My last realistic resolution is this – live for this moment. As I begin to edge closer and closer to graduation, the subjects of graduate school, real life jobs, and the future have been brought up. To be honest, it’s terrifying. That’s why I am trying to live for this moment. I don’t know what the future will bring me today; all I know for today is that I’m writing a blog post, going out for pizza with my darling mother later, and probably snuggling my cats later. Will I ruin an otherwise normal day with anxiety about what will happen in four months? Nope. I can, however, be aware of it and be proactive; I’ve applied to graduate school at Saint Rose and have been mapping out different paths that I can take when May rolls around. But I refuse to let the stress of graduation and what that will bring ruin the rest of my time at Saint Rose. I love being in college, and I am going to soak up this time as much as possible. I’m going to live it up, essentially, and I am going to make memories. I will enjoy every blessing I have, because it’s not going to last forever.

In conclusion, the main theme of my resolutions for myself is kindness. I am going to work hard at being kind to others, being kind to myself, and enjoying 2014 as much as possible. To you, my dear reader, I say this – for this year, make New Year’s Resolutions that will last. Make Resolutions that will bring you and others happiness. And, most importantly, have fun! 

Best Wishes, and Happy New Year!

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